All women are welcome in the Red Tent
We provide a safe community for women to discover and practise using their voices without judgement or the need to censor their expression.
We are a lifeline for many. When women feel that they belong in a community that loves and supports them, they thrive.
We can learn valuable life lessons from each other and through multi-generational connections, we learn compassion.
Even if you've never been to the Red Tent before, you'll feel welcome and loved here. This is a safe, supportive place to be with your Red Tent sisters.
If your heart calls you to join us, please do. You'll be met with loving acceptance.
Whether in-person or virtually, our principles are laid out in this poem by Debra Jones, founder of Red Tent Ontario.
RED TENT PRINCIPLES
Sisters, welcome to the Red Tent - take a breath and calm your mind. You are welcome here in circle, Time for you to get aligned.
We’re positioned like a wheel, held by the centre’s sacred space. The circle is complete when every woman takes her place.
Sitting beside you as an equal - we show up just as we come. There is love here, we are friends here, and respect for everyone.
The circle is a vessel that supports your sacred time. It can hold you as you share with us whatever’s on your mind.
Whatever’s shared stays confidential to the tent, and not beyond. It’s that trust we share between us that creates the special bond.
We can share our own experience, the highs, the lows, the lot. We acknowledge others’ sharing even if they seem distraught.
We abandon need to rescue one another from her tears. Just a smile and kind attention lets her know they’re welcome here.
We embrace the pause of silence that allows us to reflect. It’s within that space of nothing that our soul can reconnect.
Take what you need to take today to fill your well complete. Give what you have to give to any woman that you meet.
And when you leave you’ll take away with you - inside your heart, a gentle knowing that you’re loved here, while together or apart.
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Red Tent Ontario was founded in 2015 to fill the need for a meaningful, supportive, safe community of women. Gathering every month, in-person and now virtually, the Red Tent is a beautiful service to humanity.
Why We Gather at the New Moon
The moon goes through a repetitive cycle of waxing and waning, from New Moon to Full Moon to New Moon, etc. The entire cycle lasts 28 to 29.5 days (one full menstruation + ovulation cycle). The cosmic energy of the New Moon marks a fresh beginning. A time to consciously let go of the gains and losses of the old cycle, and plant new seeds of intentions for what you wish to bring forth in your life for the next cycle.
Traditionally, the New Moon, known as the Dark Moon, was a time that all women menstruated. Our modern way of life has since altered our individual cycles.
The History of the Red Tent
“The Red Tent,” a novel by Anita Diamant, published in 1997 gave us a story of women who came together in a menstrual hut, known as the Red Tent. The Red Tent movement follows a tradition of women honouring women that have lasted thousands of years. Today, we're recreating a world that embraces honesty, trust and respect.
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens in the Red Tent?
In our modern way of life we're all so used to having an agenda - things we need to accomplish, to plan, to execute ... WELL ... think of the Red Tent as the opposite of that - you get to BE instead of 'do'. Oh, we'll have a little structure, as we're all comfortable with that, but the rest is up to you! No expectations of you, no pressure, no judgment. It's whatever YOU need it to be.
What do you actually do in the Red Tent?
Every gathering will be 'organic' meaning that the activity or non-activity will flow according to the needs of the women who attend. It can be a SPIRITUAL experience, a HEALING experience, a BONDING experience, an EMPOWERING experience, an EDUCATIONAL experience ... you get the picture. Most importantly, you get to be AUTHENTIC in an environment that encourages your self-empowerment and acknowledges your uniqueness. A Red Tent Sister shared this: 'When you leave the tent - for a moment, or a month, or the rest of your life - you're the woman you WANT to be'. We think that says it all.
What can I expect in the VIRTUAL Red Tent?
We're on ZOOM, so you'll see the faces of your Red Tent sisters. We'll start with a poem that sets the tone for our gathering, then we might pull a Womanrune Card to start a conversation. The rest is created organically and will be perfect for whoever is attending.
What can I expect in the PHYSICAL Red Tent?
To help you get comfortable, we wrote a little story...
My Red Tent Experience
When she arrived, she was warmly greeted with sisterly love and smiles as she hung up her coat and took off her shoes (she was glad she thought to bring her slippers - 'such a simple luxury', she thought). She was excited and gladly paid her $20 to help fund the Red Tent. She pulled back the red curtain and ventured into the Red Tent... A little unsure of what to do next, she decided to make herself a tea and found a cozy corner to lounge on the luxurious cushions and blankets that covered the floor. From this safe place, she felt she'd be able to watch what other women did. She hoped that she had sufficiently blended in.
The elders had taken their place on the comfy couch. She noticed their friendly smiles and an aura of worldly wisdom seemed to surround them. She looked around. 'This place feels exotic', she thought, 'womb-like and comforting. If only I had space in my home to recreate this feeling...' She watched her Red Tent Sisters arriving, some knew each other, some looked a little lost at first, but as she continued to observe she realized that it didn't matter. No one was watching her, she was free to be or do whatever felt right to her. There were no expectations of her, no pressure, no judgment. It was then that she realized why she had come; that the Red Tent was exactly what she needed ... and she gave herself permission to just 'be'...
She decided right then and there, that she would be back every month. 'What is 2 hours out of hundreds of hours in a month' she thought, 'I deserve it!' And she did!
** WE'RE LOOKING FORWARD TO RE-OPENING UP THE PHYSICAL RED TENT FLAPS! **
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Can I promote my business or event?
In the RED TENT FACEBOOK GROUP - yes.
However, some Red Tent Sisters are businesswomen and it's important to mention that at New Moon Red Tent gatherings, we can put aside our business mind and step into receiving what we personally need to fill our well. Each sister attends the Red Tent to fill her own need for either 'down time' or interaction with her sisters. There are many great events for networking and promotion but the monthly Red Tent gathering isn't one of them. We ask that you help us maintain sacred space by not promoting your business or events, or bringing promotional materials/business-related items for display or distribution to your Red Tent sisters - on or off the property. We thank you for respecting this very important aspect of our Red Tent.
Why do you smudge the Red Tent space?
Before each physical Red Tent, and collectively at the first Red Tent of the year, we use smudge to cleanse the energy of the Red Tent space and to clear our own auras. Smudging is an ancient ritual that clears stagnant energy by burning sacred plants or wood, such as sage or Palo Santo, and allowing its smoke to clear and bless a space. At the Red Tent, we like the woody scent of Palo Santo. It's considered a magical wood - the magic being in the alchemical process that happens after the death of the Palo Santo tree. For the wood to gain its healing properties it must die, but not just any death – only a natural death of a wise old tree. Palo Santo trees live for 80 to 90 years. After this death, the tree must remain in its natural habitat for 4 to 10 years to complete its metamorphosis. Only then do its sacred, medicinal and mystical properties come alive. A stick of Palo Santo wood is lit, and its smoke is used for the smudging ritual. This smoke is so powerful that it has become a staple in sacred rituals, becoming an essential energy tool for Shamans. Its aroma is just incredible - very fresh smelling with hints of mint and citrus - proving to be one of the most fragrant woods in the world.
How can I attend the Red Tent?
1. SIGN UP to get your invitation to the next Red Tent gathering
2. PURCHASE a ticket for the (virtual)Red Tent from your invitation
3. Using the camera on your smartphone or computer, connect using the button in your ticket confirmation email (link will become active 5 mins prior) Sign in to Eventbrite.