What 2018 holds for you
As 2017 comes to a close, it's time to review who you've become and who you want to be. It's time to CHOOSE what you want to take forward into 2018.
The energies of 2017 have helped us see illusion in our lives, and it is quite possible that you've come to a profound revelation that it's time to let go of something, or someone, in your life, to be free to be the most 'AUTHENTIC YOU' in 2018.
December energies are helping you to move forward by supporting the act of letting go.
If you choose to let go of a relationship or partnership, it's important to be gentle in your approach. Avoid sudden change. The outcome is likely to be better when you avoid shocking or abrupt actions that may create emotional trauma.
Be kind, be truthful and let your heart lead you.
SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
Let's face it, we've all evolved. None of us are who we used to be.
I recently sat down for a chat with myself to determine what aspects of my life were no longer the fit they used to be. Once I had identified them, it took courage to allow myself to let go of things that didn't feel great anymore - things I'd been holding onto because I thought I 'should', to avoid disappointing others.
I felt a deep sense of relief when I gave myself permission to evolve. I noticed that I had been holding myself back, keeping myself small, and that felt like I was being restrained, like I was walking through a tunnel with my focus on a small light at the end of it.
What I discovered, when I let go of the things that no longer resonated, was that the tunnel no longer existed and I became the light!
I AM THE LIGHT
... and you are too!
Shine, like the diamond you are!
What are you hiding?
A clue to what lies in our shadows can be found in what irritates us in others. These shadow aspects are mirrored back to us this way.
Your SHADOW SELF is your disowned self - those parts of you that threaten to jeopardize your ego's chosen persona.
The trouble is, this Great Shift in Consciousness has now swung the door open and we're being called to face this dark side of ourselves in order to become whole.
Although this can make us fearful, although we may feel that we're not prepared to deal with what's there, although these thoughts and feelings may be judged by ourselves as well as others, the truth is we ARE ready, and we CAN find the courage to do this. This is the evolution of our species - we are evolving into the New Human.
We need to embrace the totality of our Selves to live in this New World.
For those who aren't familiar with 'Healing the Self', you may find this easiest with a healer or therapist to guide you. But for those of you who have walked your healing path for years, wondering why something you thought you'd dealt with is rearing it's head again, try this:
8 Steps to Integrating the Shadow
1. Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed.
2. Settle, centre and ground yourself, taking three deep breaths. Feel your root chakra connect to Mother Earth. Feel your crown chakra opening up and connecting with your higher Self. Breathe.
3. Set the intention for your Shadow Side to reveal itself to you. Quieten your mind and wait.
4. Simply BE with whatever comes up for you.
5. Choose to witness any pain, anger, fear, anxiety, shame, embarrassment - without judgement.
Feel the feeling but don't become the emotion. Witness it. Allow it. Release it.
6. Breathe it out. Feel it come up, then let it flow through you.
7. The shadow aspect is no longer in darkness. It can become the light of it's true self and merge back within you. NOW you can experience integration and wholeness.
8. Enjoy the feeling of liberation, all aspects of the Self now unified. You're the HERO of your life!
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'Anything you can't control is teaching you how to let go'
- Jackson Kiddard
The end of Illusion
The light is shining on the truth. It's the end of illusion. We are now seeing what is TRUE in our relationships and in our world and we can no longer ignore it. This can be unsettling. It may turn our personal world upside down. Not only have we been questioning “Who am I?”, we’re now questioning our relationship with the world and the people around us, the careers we’re in, the life we’ve created for ourselves. Is it true? Are we living authentically? The situations that we feel we have no control over are way-showers. The light is also shining on what is NOT our truth.
We can try to deny it, we can choose to keep the status quo, but we KNOW we are lying to ourselves, and THAT is becoming more and more UNACCEPTABLE to us. Once the truth is revealed it cannot be covered up or hidden, no matter how hard we try to hide it.
So where do we go with this truth?
It scares us. Or does it ... really? If it IS the truth, why do we run from it?
We’ve been conditioned to. We are hardwired to avoid pain. The beliefs that we have long-held are getting in our way.
How beliefs are created & why they're such a force in our lives
Beliefs are simply thoughts, that we have given our energy to. Beliefs are only thoughts that we continue to think, over and over again. The good news is that if we GIVE OURSELVES PERMISSION to ALLOW a different thought to come in, and we give that thought our attention, our energy, we can create a NEW belief.
This new belief can be one that is in true alignment with our Soul. If we choose to follow the Soul’s Path, it's there that we’ll find true peace.
Perhaps you’re thinking: “But how can I allow myself to change my path? It may hurt others if I change my direction and I don’t want anyone to be hurt.”
Think about it. Someone IS getting hurt. YOU!
If your birthright is to live a life of joy and happiness (which, by the way, is the truth), then why are you accepting a life of pain or unhappiness? If you’re not living the life you were given, then who is? And whose life are YOU living? A life that is based on other people’s ideas of what your life should look like? You don’t have to live a life by others’ rules, you’re a grownup now, you can make your own rules. Conversely, are you expecting someone to live a life through YOUR rules? That is just as damaging to their Soul’s Path as it is to yours. Cosmically, the light is shining on the truth FOR ALL OF US. Let us allow others to follow their own truth too!
It’s not easy to walk this journey alone. If you're fortunate enough to have the support for your new authentic path through a trusted friend or partner, you can assist each other and guide each other to authenticity. Perhaps you know of a therapist, counselor or healer who can offer you a safe place to explore your true desires? Enlist their support for as long as you need it. (Know that I offer this support too). But if you cannot secure this support, there IS another way.
NATURE AS A HEALER
NATURE can, and will support your journey. It is STABILITY that we seek as we navigate these choppy waters. Stability can be found in the elements around us that have stood the test of time. That stability can be found in the rocks that have been there for eons. There are trees that have stood for a hundred years or more, the waters have been around since the beginning of time, rising up from the oceans and into the clouds, to rain down again upon the earth, over and over again.
In nature we find stability. It grounds us. Our soul can be fed by it. It offers itself to you. Seek it, find it, BE with it and listen to what it whispers to you. It's there that you’ll hear your inner truth, in the silence you’ll discover the way forward. You are here for a short time, make it a great time, and when we find each other on the other side, we’ll laugh about just how serious we thought life had to be.
Emotional Roller coaster
Are You Enjoying The Ride?
Have you noticed yet, that life seems a little (or a lot) different after the Total Solar Eclipse?
It's not your imagination, you HAVE been affected - - - in a positive way.
This latest SHIFT has aligned us all onto the path of actualizing our fullest potential. The things you need to change, in order to accomplish this, have been shoved under your nose. You cannot avoid it any longer. It MUST be dealt with - - - or released.
In my healing room I see many clients who, collectively, reveal to me a pattern. I get to see where our collective consciousness resides as they bring to me the stories of what they are noticing in their lives. This is the reason that my emails resonate with so many of you! I write about where we are and what we are dealing with, in order to assist those who cannot come for personal attention.
For many this emotional roller coaster is frustrating.
For others, it's downright scary.
But for some, (those that can raise their hands up in the air) it is teaching how to trust and let go of the process! THEY ARE THE ONES ENJOYING THE RIDE!
"OK!" You say. "How exactly do I do that"
Scroll your way down the blog posts below - to May 2016 - THE BLISS OF SURRENDER - read that! It's a great starting point.
As you're scrolling, your eyes may catch the attention of other posts that carry the information that resonates with you at this time, such as THE OTHER SIDE OF CHAOS or WHAT WE RESIST PERSISTS.
If you would like personal attention to assist you in your unique situation. I'm here for you!.
Changing The Earth's Heartbeat ONE BUDDHA AT A TIME
It's not just the English talking about the weather these days. Canada (especially) has been experiencing some strangely erratic weather.
Rain, upon rain, upon rain. . . thunder, lightning, hail... It's been named ‘The Hundred-Year Storm’!
Have you wondered ‘WHY is this happening?’
Weather patterns have a correlation to Earth’s energy.
Earth’s energy has a correlation to human consciousness – what we're aware of and how we're feeling.
Did you know that there are special Weather Stations positioned all over the globe that have been picking up the shift in collective consciousness? They’re called GCI’s – A Global Coherence Monitoring System, a worldwide network of magnetometers that collect a continuous stream of data from the Earth’s magnetic field.
Moments of collective high anxiety, tension and passion can create noticeable changes in the normal vibration level of the earth. A change was recorded during the most recent US inauguration!
The Earth’s vibration is called the Schumann Resonance - aka the Earth’s Heartbeat. It vibrates at the same rate as a balanced Heart Chakra (and the reason why being in nature restores and heals us).
AS BELOW - SO ABOVE
The weather is a mirror to our thoughts and feelings and shows the turmoil many of us are experiencing within. The Earth's Heartbeat is getting faster, deep wounds are being uncovered, dark secrets are being revealed... While all this Truth is emerging, it might help you to know that WE ARE EVOLVING EXACTLY AS OUR SOUL PATH HAS PLANNED.
Instead of letting the anxiety and tension get to you, step up - and into - your power and do something that could be considered quite odd.
Yep, even though it’s probably the last thing you feel like doing – try it anyway and see how laughter can reset your stress level back to normal. Let me explain:
LAUGHTER IS THE MASTER OF SELF
You’ve seen the Laughing Buddha - a bald, pot-bellied monk raising his arms as he roars with laughter. Not just a cheap trinket in a market stall, but a way-shower to enlightenment. Don’t believe me? Read on.
The laughing Buddha has great wisdom. He knows who he is and that life is just an illusion. His message is to teach us this wisdom and that laughter can be an expression of enlightenment.
Buddha’s laughter is a release from inner tension into inner harmony!
The Buddha doesn’t laugh at himself or at others, he doesn’t laugh because he’s acquired something others don’t have. The laughter isn’t cynical, sarcastic, bitter or defiant. It’s the laughter of compassion, amusement at the interplay of knowledge and ignorance that makes up the joys and sorrows of what we call life.
Find BALANCE NOW
Turn up your volume and get ready for some Laughter Therapy. It's sure to reset your vibration - and that of our planet Earth too!
Click here: https://youtu.be/15q_K5r3RzU
the other side of chaoS
What Have You Discovered?
We've ALL been experiencing the global ascension - aka 'The Shift'.
Take a deep breath. We've reached the top of the mountain.
Sit for a while, before you join us in the decent into the New World - a new way of being.
We've experienced chaos and discord in varying degrees - and we have survived.
The experienced has allowed us to become aware of our own unique aspects of our TRUE SELF.
Take a moment to reflect on these two questions:
- What have you discovered about yourself?
- What have you learned?
This chaos has been a lesson for us - to show us who we really are - to discover our true colours.
NOTE: If you're still in the chaos, it's time to separate from it - CHOOSE to view it as a 'drama' that you can watch from the outside, instead of being an actor within it. Let the other actors remain on the stage while you step down and sit in the audience for a while.
By individuating, creating separation, you'll begin to see a beautiful expression of your Self. Avoid getting pulled into judgement - of who is right and who is wrong. Stay in the place of truth about yourself. Your deepest true identity is emerging from within.
You need to see how you're different today. You no longer need to replay the ways of your previous Self. Use your current wisdom to make NEW choices that are more in alignment with your true Self. This is a journey of Self. No need to convince or convert others - just be yourSelf - do it YOUR way, and allow them to do it theirs.
From this seat in the audience, you'll find your true Self and then you will notice that you're viewing the scene from a higher perspective. You'll move into a place of love and compassion - for yourself and for others.
It is then, that you'll return back wholeness, oneness with all. Aware of your infinite potential.
Through discord and detachment we can become aware of the unique part of ourselves. It's a necessary part of the evolution process.
CallING off the search for 'what's next'
These are trying times!
For those of us that need to be constantly moving forward - constantly wondering 'what's next', feeling like we're running on the hamster wheel of life, believing that we can't let it stop turning ... this is for you:
Currently, many enlightenedsources are delivering the same message:
'listen to the ancestral echoes of wisdom from deep within your heart'
'loving what is'
'fully and deeply appreciate what you have'
'You can run around like a chicken or you can press your inner ear to that heartbeat and align'
'accept the current ‘chaos’ and ‘disorder’ and allow the energy of Love to guide'
'A NEW QUALITY OF BEING is revealed'
This current 'shift' took me a while before I figured out what to do about how I was feeling. When I'm perplexed and/or frustrated, I have sources that I turn to, that can shine the light on the path I need to take. This time, however, my sources were making me even more deeply confused because I was asking the questions "What next?" "Which direction should I go?" "What do I need to do?"
In hindsight I see that I was asking the wrong questions, however, my quest lead me to the answer. (Well, actually a dear healer friend eventually guided me to it - thanks Ingrid)
AFTER I surrendered and admitted that I didn't know the way, this is what appeared:
When you stop the backward or forward movement of mind, you are IN THE NOW.
In that NOW moment you realize that you are SAFE, that there ARE no fires to extinguish, that you EXIST without effort.
It is from this place of inner peace that you shed anxiety and can trust that all is well. Trusting that you know all there is to know in this moment.
It is in the NOW moment that you can be free of that hamster wheel.
You have revealed a NEW QUALITY OF BEING!
Remember how to return to the NOW next time you find yourself on that hamster wheel of life.
Meditation made Easy
You CAN Meditate! Here's how:
It's common knowledge that meditation is good for you, but for some, sitting still and emptying the mind is a skill best left to the Buddha on the mountain.
There's an easier way!
All you need to do is gift yourself just 10 minutes to close your eyes and be GUIDED into deep relaxation! You'll emerge refreshed, rejuvenated and ready to join the world again.
With the help of my talented 'sound-engineer' son (Thanks Matt), we've remastered four of my best-selling guided meditations ... with more on the way.
Try one for FREE today and if you like it, download it onto any device to listen whenever and wherever you choose. P.S. All donations go to Matt's education fund.
Check it out here
Goddess energy is alive
A NEW EARTH
The rise of the feminine is NOW
This isn’t like the feminism movement of the ‘60s when, to loosen the grip of patriarchal rule (where men had power over women), it was deemed necessary to force the balance back to centre for equal rights for women.
This isn’t about shifting the power over to the women; it isn’t about creating a matriarchal society. This is a breakdown of the patriarchy and the beginning of a NEW EARTH. It’s about bringing balance and harmony back into our world for ALL.
We have now entered a time where ‘POWER OVER’ another is no longer accepted or supported. Instead, balance can be achieved when we apply a ‘POWER WITH’ philosophy.
The most commonly recognized form of power, POWER OVER, has many negative associations such as repression, force, coercion, discrimination, corruption, and abuse. Experienced as a ‘win-lose’ situation, having this power involves taking it from someone else, and then using it to dominate and prevent others from gaining it.
POWER WITH is about finding common ground among different interests and building collective strength. Based on mutual support, solidarity and collaboration, it multiplies individual talents and knowledge. ‘Power with’ can help build bridges across different interests to transform or reduce social conflict and promote equitable relations.
The difference is clearly either ‘win/lose’ or ‘win/win’ and any compassionate soul will recognize the option that is more in harmony with a peaceful and joyful existence.
Organized groups such as Gather the Women and the proliferation of Women's Circles and Red Tents all over the world are a sign of these changing times.
NOW - Women are gathering and taking their power back – using the 'POWER WITH' philosophy to bring harmony back into their own lives first, then into the lives of those they care about.
Studies have shown that the vibration level of the earth has already shifted as we collectively move out of FEAR (low vibration) and into LOVE (high vibration). We are raising our consciousness to greater truth. The veil is lifting. The blinders are coming off.
What does this mean to me?
That’s a good question and one that I suggest you try to answer before you read on.
It’s about creating balance in your own life.
Notice where YOU may be out of balance and take action to BRING YOURSELF BACK INTO BALANCE.
Women, if you experience laziness, depression, lack of motivation or over-nurturing tendencies - just add a dollop of focus, discipline or activity.
Men, if you experience aggressiveness, narrow-mindedness, coldness towards others or frustration – just add a smidgen of openness, patience, caring, wisdom, flexibility, or compassion.
Being in balance SIMPLY FEELS BETTER and helps us live in harmony with others on this Earth.
Are You an Addict?
Before you answer "No" - read on ...
Everything we’ve been taught about addiction is wrong. The information we’ve been given is that whatever you’re addicted to makes you dependent on it, you start to physically need it, and then can’t function without it. Now you’re an addict!
In addition, punishment or traditional intervention methods for addiction can be counter-productive and do not address the real issue.
It may surprise you to know that smartphones … eating … drinking … shopping … work … gaming and social media are just a few common addictions that, for some, are unrecognized as such.
'Ask not why the addiction, but why the pain.'
– Gabor Maté
New evidence in the alternative medical field claims that addiction is a replacement for a lack of human connection. You may have experienced trauma of disconnection in childhood or adulthood - a loved one dying or leaving, being removed from those you love, or a disconnection not as obvious, but just as painful. ‘Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma’, says Canadian physician Dr. Gabor Maté, ‘but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience.’ He says ‘It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the addictive behaviour.’
Investigating a little deeper, trauma is well-known to cause interruption to healthy neural wiring (connections) in the brain. These misrouted connections are the reason why we learn unhealthy behaviour.
Those who have suffered trauma, particularly children, can be left with an underlying sense that the world is not safe, or that people cannot be trusted. Removing that sense of trust, that our family, community and society will keep us safe, results in isolation – a lack of connection. We then look for a cure for the uncomfortable feeling caused by the painful experience and, once found, it becomes the source used to escape the pain.
People who have human connections and healthy relationships that they want to be present for, do not need addictions because their basic human need has been filled with these connections.
We Heal Pain with Love
One way that neural re-wiring is possible is by valuing the addict so they can learn to value themselves. When an addict who chooses to acknowledge their emotional pain, is loved and cared for until they can learn to love themselves, they will no longer need their addiction.
If the addict can begin to reconnect with others, new neural pathways can be made in the brain so that feelings are re-routed and the pain can be released.
So, you may wonder “How can checking my smartphone every time it pings mean I’m disconnected? Aren’t I MORE connected because I’m in constant contact with my ‘friends’?” This type of connection is a virtual connection – virtual means ‘not physically existing but made to appear that way’. This type of connection does not fill the basic human need for physical connection with another human. Only a network of real human-to-human connections does this.
There’s Good News
The good news is that there’s a very easy way to help yourself or the people that you care about. Addiction is not so much about individual recovery, but more about social recovery. It’s something we do together. Making time to connect with other humans (whose faces aren’t in THEIR smartphones) fostering and growing those connections, communities coming together, even Facebook groups arranging gatherings of its human members at a physical location are the way forward.
As aptly quoted by Brené Brown, ‘connection (is) the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued…’
Moon Cycles February 2017
We’re all Lunatics
Believe it or not, the moon affects your life. Life is a series of experiences and patterns that correlate with the patterns of the moon’s cycle. In nature, the NEW MOON is the time for NEW BEGINNINGS, to plant seeds of intention for what you want to grow in your life. Setting conscious intentions during the energy of the New Moon is a common custom as it is said that, as the moon grows, your intention will too, by the time the moon completes it’s cycle back to New Moon.
First - some Facts About The Moon’s Cycle
The NEW Moon is called the dark moon as it appears dark, or invisible, in the sky.
As the days go by, the sliver of the crescent moon is WAXING, getting larger and larger, until the moon is viewed in it’s entirety as a FULL Moon. Then, it is described as WANING, or decreasing in size in stages until it appears again, the following month, as a dark moon – and the cycle continues.
How the Moon's Cycle Affects Us
This lunar cycle controls the tides because the phase of the moon determines the gravitational pull on water. Women’s menstrual cycle is often aligned to the moon cycle. Less well known, the moon is also linked to the electro-chemistry of the brain. Science has documented more seizures in the already unstable brain chemistry of epileptic patients around the Full Moon. For those of us with more stable brain chemistry, we are still likely to be afflicted with some type of lunacy at this stage of the moon’s cycle.
CAN The Moon Affect Your Sleep?
People are starting to relate to the effects of the moon on sleep patterns – finding it harder to get to sleep and remain asleep when the moon is full, whether or not the moonlight is visible from their bed. The most powerful effects of the New and Full moons are during eclipses. This upcoming Full moon is in fact a LUNAR ECLIPSE, so pay attention to your experiences.
New Moon Magic
The New Moon is the start of a new life cycle - a time to initiate things, to begin new projects. The magic of the New Moon is that for one day each month, the Sun and the Moon are on the same page. Both the Sun and the Moon work together to determine how wants and needs can be merged, how the subconscious and conscious minds can work together. Every New Moon is an opportunity to direct our destiny and what better way than to create a ritual to support that destiny. A ritual is simply a well-defined sequence of words and/or actions designed to focus attention, establish significance, and achieve a beneficial result. Try it for yourself:
Direct Your Destiny
1. Gather your sacred supplies
Consider a ritual to be sacred work. Dedicate a small side table, surface or tray to hold your sacred artifacts. Meaningful pictures, crystals, talismans, found objects are all items that can make up your collection. Just add a candle and you’ve created your ‘sacred altar’.
2. Prepare yourself
An act becomes a ritual due to your dedication to the act itself. Honour the ritual by careful preparation - cleanse yourself either with a bath or shower, or by clearing your energy. Smudging is one way to cleanse your energy field. Light the end of a sage wand and blow on it to extinguish the flame, leaving a smoldering glow. Allow the smoke to take with it any energies that need removing by passing the wand around your own body, and in the space of your ritual. Clear your mind with meditation or calming music.
3. Set Your Intention
The significance of the ritual lies in your intention. What seeds do you want to plant? What do you want to grow? Make a list of your dreams and desires (for inspiration check out the list of New Moon intentions always listed in my monthly MoonCycles email).
4. Finalize the Ritual
If you like you can add a symbolic act like burning your list to send the energy of your message into the Universe or up to the heavens, or simply state your intentions out loud before carefully folding your list and placing it in a box or envelope that you’ll keep with your sacred artifacts. Perhaps you want to keep your list in a visible place, on your fridge or in your wallet.
5. Follow up
Be sure to make notes in your journal about your progress towards manifesting your intentions and, at the next FULL MOON, find ways to ‘TAKE ACTION’ on these intentions and celebrate even the smallest signs of change.
May all your intentions come true!
5 Easy Steps to Eliminate an Old habit
According to The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, you cannot eliminate a habit simply by an intention (or New Year's Resolution) to break it - it must be REPLACED with a new one.
STEP ONE: Notice the pattern of your habit
A cue is anything that can trigger a routine. It could be a place, a situation, a time... Do you exercise your habit when you're around particular people? Do you indulge this habit each day at a particular time? Do you succumb to this habit whenever you're stressed? Keeping a journal is an excellent way to notice patterns in your behaviour.
STEP TWO: Decide what to replace your old unwanted habit with
This needs to be practical and actionable. Your old habit gave you a hit of dopamine, the 'feel good' chemical, and because you WANT to feel good, you're wired to repeat a habit that makes you feel good. Therefore, the ONLY way to replace an unwanted habit is to create a replacement habit that makes you feel AS GOOD AS, if not better than, the old habit.
STEP THREE: Reward yourself often
It is important to reinforce new behaviour with a reward - something positive that makes you want to repeat it. Write your goal on paper or create a vision board of pictures that represent your goal so that you will be reminded of the ultimate reward when tempted to return to your old habit. Also, plan to give yourself a reward through different stages or phases towards your goal.
STEP FOUR: Establish a support system
Without belief that change is possible, change is impossible. To succeed in creating a new habit you need to be accountable to it. It is important to have support from friends, family or a higher power to turn to when you're challenged and to encourage you to continue when you feel like giving up. Write a list of potential problems that may tempt you to give up. Then beside each one, write solutions on what you'll do to overcome them.
STEP FIVE: Start NOW!
2017 is the year of New Beginnings
On January 1st we enter the 1:1:1 Portal, meaning that we all have Universal Support to start anything new! Harness this support and make 2017 your best year yet!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
WHAT WE RESIST PERSISTS
- How to reopen the door of possibilities
In these changing times, many are feeling insecure in the world and in their lives. Do you feel in control or controlled? Do you feel that you have the power to make decisions for yourself or have you given your power away to those who you believe should have it? In my healing practice, I’ve discovered that it is common for many of us to hand their power over to another – unaware that the uncomfortable feeling of powerlessness is simply the result of the CHOICE that they exercised their power to make.
Did you know that no one can take your power from you – you must give it to them, for them to have it?
I’ve discovered that the root of the problem is simply the BELIEF that you have no choice.
Belief means ‘an assumed truth’. We create beliefs to anchor our understanding of the world and once we've formed one, we tend to persevere with it. So, a belief is just a thought that we keep thinking over and over. We can change our beliefs if we change the thought that created it.
Viewing your situation from another perspective is not always easy, but doing so can change the outcome.
I’d like you to consider for a moment, the possibility that we might ALWAYS have choice. We may CHOOSE to believe that another human being has more power than we do, or that we are powerless to change a situation. However, that is still a perception and a belief that we have chosen.
What is power anyway?
- the ability to do something
- the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others, or the course of events.
So, all that means is that you believe that the person has power over you, giving them the ability to influence you. You believe that they have power… so, you give it to them.
Furthermore, giving your power to them influences them to believe that they have power over you and so they believe they do ... and act accordingly.
Or – you believe that a situation has the capacity to direct or influence you … and so it does.
It’s quite possible that we may choose to dis-empower ourselves to prevent the occurrence of something more painful. We humans are wired to avoid pain at all costs. We’re even willing to pay the high price of giving our power away to avoid pain, and if what we’re getting in return feels worth it – we make that choice.
Take a moment to stop and think about a choice you’ve recently made to avoid pain or discomfort. If a thought doesn’t easily come to mind, a clue may be around something you don’t feel so great about in your life. Something that isn’t working for you and you’re tolerating it. Then ask yourself: “Why do I make this choice? What am I getting in return?” Then you can consider whether or not the price you are paying matches the perceived gain.
At this point it’s important to mention that I’m not suggesting that you adopt a defeatist attitude to what you deem unfair or unjust, I’m simply asking you to discern if your resistance diminishes you in any way.
Some may feel that justification and acceptance of an undesirable situation somehow makes you weak or prevents you from having the courage to push forward and change it - like you’re waving the white flag. Let me ask you this: That courage (to push forward) – where is that? And why haven’t you used it yet? Its because that courage ... its not there. Yet.
Let’s find it…
Jungian theory tells us that ‘what we resist persists’. Its not the situation that's causing us pain – its how we perceive the situation. The more we resist, the more the situation persists.
We’ve given away our power to it and that has left us power-LESS. Logically then, if we take back our power, we’ll have the ‘power supply’ necessary to move forward and away from the pain. It will no longer persist.
Here’s how to stop resisting in 3 easy steps
STOP whatever you’re doing so that you can reconnect with your power.
TAKE A BREATHER - Go on, close your eyes for a moment. Slow down your breathing and take 3 long … slow … deep … breaths. Allow your muscles to relax – especially those in your shoulders, hips and stomach and even around your eyes. Gift yourself a moment to become centered and grounded. Focus on your breath so that your attention is brought into the 'NOW'.
CHOOSE TO TAKE BACK YOUR POWER – say it out loud: “I TAKE BACK MY POWER AND I ACCEPT IT NOW!” Pick up that imaginary white flag and purposefully wave it to signify that you choose to no longer resist.
That’s it – there's no step 3!
So now what?
To get what you want - want what you get!
Let me give you an example. If you are in a job you don’t like and you feel powerless to make a move away from the situation – your answer to the question “what am I getting in return?” might be “A pay cheque so I can afford to live in my home and put food on the table.” Would that be a good return? I’d say so! Wouldn’t it be MORE painful to have NO home and an empty stomach! Exactly! So, then you will see that it IS in your highest good to stay in that job for now.
Changing your perspective is the key to opening the door to something better. Stop resisting, and the situation can no longer persist. Remember – what we resist persists, what we think and feel we make real, and what we befriend we transcend.
Blessings on your precious journey of discovery.
Debra Jones - Reiki Master
Specializing in Stress, Anxiety & Depression
Most of us know what it feels like when we have compassion for someone. We feel kindness, caring and a willingness to help them. For many, this is a natural gift, available and offered to all.
In my healing practice, I've noticed a common issue - an imbalance in the energy of giving and receiving. This begs the question "Why is this such a common state?"
I have a theory: Perhaps we were never taught SELF-COMPASSION? We're taught COMPASSION - to be kind to others, "Don't hurt Johnny - be kind to him!" We're taught that it's more socially acceptable to stifle any anger or discomfort we feel and make sure the other person is comfortable instead. How compassionate - kind and caring - to the SELF is that?
Now I'm not suggesting that we stop having compassion for others, but I AM suggesting we need to develop a way to bring these energies into balance. We can do this easily in the healing room, but that doesn't help us daily. We need to add some tools to our tool belt so we have them when we need them.
If we afford ourselves the kindness and compassion we afford others, we'll have balance.
Too often, our inner judge tells us we're selfish to think of ourselves. Contrary to common belief - self-compassion is NOT selfish because everyone benefits. If you're filled with what YOU need, you'll have MORE to share with others. Selfish is usually meant to be an insult; someone selfish goes beyond just taking care of themselves and actively takes from others. The opposite of selfish is self-sacrificing, which means, 'giving everything to others and sacrificing your own needs.'
Here's an interesting thought - If sacrificing my interests for another’s sake makes me feel good about myself, is my so-called 'act of kindness' selfish at its core? Hmm!
Sheesh! NOW what’s the right thing to do?
Well, let’s look at the facts: If, on an energetic healing level, our bodies appear out of balance when we lack self-compassion, and opening to self-compassion brings it back into balance, the answer is simple: Practice Self-Compassion!
Self-compassion steps in when self-esteem lets us down
Self-compassion creates a caring space within you that is free of judgment—a place that sees your hurt and your failures and softens to allow those experiences with kindness and caring.
3 simple steps to Self-Compassion
1. Stop, and Breathe Deeply
This breaks the cycle of pain from self-judgement and allows you to become mindful of it’s harmful effects. Just notice what is happening and choose not to judge it or push it away. Remember: self-compassion is about being with your suffering in a kind, loving way, not about making suffering disappear.
2. Soothe and Allow
Place your hands where you intuitively feel the pain. If you don’t feel it, wrap your arms around yourself in a warm, loving hug. Soothe the pain. Sometimes emotions will bubble up to the surface. Allow them to wash over you as waves of self-compassion. Breathe it through. Don’t hold onto it. Release any tension in your body. Let it go.
3. Be Your Own Best Friend
Say something kind and compassionate to yourself. Talk to yourself just as you would to a best friend who is suffering. Give yourself some loving kindness. Offer yourself the support you need.
Remember: Beating yourself up won’t help you be kinder to others. Our compassion for others will be greater when we can show compassion to ourselves.
Do You Wear The Busy Badge?
I've been known to wear MY busy badge. I was proud of it! I thought others would be too! But I've since learned that this badge is an obstacle, not an honour, and wearing it allows us to hide behind what's REALLY going on - inadequacy!
Feeling NOT GOOD ENOUGH or needing to prove our worth is the affliction of a busy person. You're not really so busy - you're reading this aren't you?
Like other busy people, we can get to the end of our day feeling that we didn't get things done. This feeling eventually creates OVERWHELM which gets in the way of feeling accomplished and at peace with the world.
So if it's the illusive INNER PEACE you're searching for - you won't find it while wearing your busy badge - you simply HAVE to take it off!
Wait! Whoa! Scary! What will THEY think?
What if 'THEY' aren't that interested in how busy your life is or isn't? What if you could give yourself permission to BE instead of DO - remember: you're a human BEing not a human DOing.
The difference between busyness and productivity
'Busy' appears to others that you're keeping yourself occupied or you can't fit in anything else.
'Productivity' means creating something with your time.
If you're not productive then you're simply busy.
Multi-tasking isn't actually productive
David Meyer from the University of Michigan published a study that showed that switching what you’re doing mid-task increases the time it takes you to finish both tasks by 25%.
Psychologically being busy is linked to the belief that "If I'm not busy, I'm not important or hardworking".
But you are important and you are hard-working so that belief doesn't FIT. If it doesn't fit, don't own it! Give it up!
Beliefs are just stories you tell yourself over and over. Decide on a NEW story and start telling that one to yourself over and over until it becomes your new belief.
Here's our NEW mantra:
"I am worthy!"
Once YOU believe in yourself - eventually, so will 'THEY' (if that still matters to you).
HOW TO DE-STRESS
According to spiritual teacher Matt Kahn, stress is often perceived as:
'What I FEEL, due to what other people DO'
'I feel the way I do because of how other people behave.'
However, he explains,if this is your perception you have (temporarily) lost your 'spiritual freedom' - you can't be free if your experience is caused by other people, and STRESS is the result of feeling restrained.
TO BECOME UN-STRESSED YOU NEED TO BECOME FREE
If you could pass your concerns over to someone else to deal with, you could go and do something else instead. Wouldn't that feel good? But instead, we choose to believe things like 'I must find the answer', 'I have to solve this' - and we get stressed trying to figure things out.
IF WORRY COULD SOLVE A PROBLEM - WE'D HAVE NO PROBLEMS
Think about it ... our default, when things get tough, is to stress and worry about it, yet that action NEVER solves it. Einstein taught us that if we do the same thing we get the same results. He also taught us that if we do something different we get a different result.
I'd like to share with you an idea I've put into action with incredible results, including a distinct sense of PEACE. I've been sharing it with others with similar results.
WATCH THIS VIDEO
Forward to 9:00 if you're short on time, but know this:
The Great Cleanse is coming on September 9th 2016
The year 2016 is a '9-year'. We get this by adding the numbers 2+0+1+6=9
So 2016 has been a year of CHANGE ... people we've lost, places/situations we've left behind...This year we've had wave after wave of the 'Great Shift' energy, designed to push us towards our intended life purpose - to complete what needs to be completed so that we can step into our true selves.A plan so cleverly designed so that we don't bring old energies with us into the new '1-year' of 2017. We have 4 more months of purging still to do...
TIME FOR A LIFE REVIEW
- Are you certain that where you are in your journey is where you WANT to be?
- Is it where you NEED to be?
- Does it make you feel that you're growing/evolving?
- Is it hindering your mission?
- Is it hindering YOU and your spiritual growth?
TAKE 3 STEPS to ALIGN YOURSELF:
- BREATHE. Taking at least 3 conscious, deep breaths interrupts your automatic pilot program and allows you to change direction.
- CENTER YOURSELF. This means focusing your attention on where you are in relation to everything else. Simply taking a second to focus your attention on the 4 directions - North, South, East & West (approximate is OK), the Earth and the Sky. Now that you know where you are - right in the center - you're centered!
- WRITE IT DOWN. Put pen to paper and start writing everything that enters your consciousness. DON'T TAKE YOUR PEN OFF THE PAPER FOR AT LEAST 5 MINUTES (try for 10). This helps you sift through the superficial and gets to your core issues. It may surprise you!
And I'll leave you with a timely message from a Hopi Elder:
"You have been telling the people that this is the eleventh hour. Now you must go back and tell the people that this is the hour and there are things to be considered…
Where are you living?
What are you doing?
What are your relationships?
Are you in right relation?
Where is your water?
Know your garden
It is time to speak your truth
Create your community
Be good to each other
And do not look outside yourself for the leader."
Then he clasped his hands together, smiled, and said, "This could be a good time!"
"There is a river now flowing very fast.
is so swift that there are those who will be afraid. They
will try to hold on to the shore and they will feel like they are being torn
apart and will suffer greatly.
Know that the river has a destination.
The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open and our heads above the water and see who is in there with you – and celebrate!
At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally,
least of all ourselves, for the moment that we do, our spiritual growth and
journey come to a halt.
time of the lone wolf is over. Gather yourselves.
Banish the word struggle from your attitude and vocabulary.
All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration."
"We are the ones who we have been waiting for."
The Way ForwarD
Our culture is changing. We are welcoming the ways of other cultures to help us find the way forward.
‘For centuries we’ve largely ignored the wisdom of those among us who are still directly connected to ancestral ways of knowledge.
As our modern lifestyle collides with the fact that our Earth is not capable of supporting our current way of life, we are finally starting to look to those who once lived in a state of indefinite sustainability and abundance, for a way forward’, says Jonathan Davis in his article An Indigenous Approach to Healing Trauma
We Hurry, We Strive
We travel to work (even if it's just down the hallway) with thoughts about what we need to accomplish today or what fires we need to avoid or put out. Come Friday, we want to rush through our day to get to the weekend faster.
This constant forward push, that desire to get somewhere - physically or even spiritually - prevents us from truly LIVING our lives. When we're focused on the future, or focused on past events we're missing the only moment that really exists - the NOW.
As a healer, I understand the benefits of meditation; taking time out from the everyday. I often suggest it to my clients - firstly as a way to teach balance and secondly as a method of maintaining life balance.
Meditation is a way to return our focus to the NOW. Focusing on our long, slow, deep breaths turns our mind away from our many thoughts and allows us to break the cycle.
However, as I'm always looking to discover new ways to teach my clients balance, after a meditative experience of my own I was lead to something new:
Australian Aboriginal elder, Miriam-Rose Ungunmerr-Baumann shares with us the practice of
Power of Listening in Stillness
- known as ‘Dadirri’.
She tells us, 'Aboriginal culture has taught us to be still and to wait. We do not try to hurry things up. We let them follow their natural course - like the seasons. We watch the moon in each of its phases. We wait for the rain to fill our rivers and water the thirsty earth...
Allow us to introduce you to dadirri:
How YOU Can Experience Dadirri
people would call this contemplation. It’s the way we sit and take time and go
Reserve a space regularly for about 5 minutes, in the morning or evening. Go outside if you can. Simply sit and look at and listen to the earth and environment that surrounds you.
Focus on something specific, such as a bird, a blade of grass, a clump of soil, cracked earth, a flower, bush or leaf, a cloud in the sky or a body of water, whatever you can see.
You can also let something find you, be it a leaf, the sound of a bird, the feel of the breeze, the light on a tree trunk. There’s no need to try, just wait a while.
Be still and silent and listen…
Following this quiet time, there may be, on occasion, value in expressing in some way your experience of this quiet, still listening. You may wish to talk about the experience or journal, write poetry, draw, paint or sing. This needs to be held in balance - the key to dadirri is in simply being, rather than in outcomes and activity.Source
THE NEW NORMAL
If we wait for things to get back to the old normal, we suffer.
There is no need for suffering.
Simply let go of the past and move forward.
It's time to adapt to a NEW way of thinking and living.
Gregg Braden (pioneer in bridging science, spirituality and the real world) shares with us how to solve our own, and world problems. It is now necessary, more than ever, to move away from the old beliefs of our culture: separation, competition & conflict and move towards the fact that we are connected (to our body, to nature and to others) and to now work in co-operation and mutual aid with each other ... IT'S TIME TO THINK & LIVE DIFFERENTLY ...
Confusion OR CLARITy As you navigate through the current global energetic
shifts, have you noticed that you can find yourself suddenly confused
about a direction to take?
When we make an attempt to move forward, everything shifts because you are realigning. If you haven't developed a method of balancing yourself you may get disoriented and confused.
Confusion equals growth
Nothing is supposed to stay the same - Mother Earth and everything that exists upon her is always in a state of change. Life is a cycle - day turns into night turns into day. Why then, do we expect things to remain the same and get stressed when they don't? How can we progress if nothing changes?
There is a FLOW to all things. Think of a river ... it starts out as a stream, it gathers momentum and becomes a river, which gathers momentum and becomes an ocean.
If the stream DOESN'T gather momentum it becomes stagnant and stagnation is an absence of life force energy - the energy that all living things need to be alive. Why on earth then would you WANT to stagnate?
The answer is often FEAR - fear of what might happen, fear of what might NOT happen. Worrying about the future and ruminating on the past. Feeling a lack of understanding of the circumstances. Even though these scenarios don't actually exist in the current moment, you can find yourself so attached to them that you become paralyzed - unable to move forward, and now unsure of your direction - hence the confusion.
When you find yourself worried about the future or living in the past, bring yourself back to the NOW by taking some deep breaths. When you breathe in, think "in" and when you breathe out, think "out". Doing this puts your thoughts on 'pause' and shifts your mind onto your breath instead. When you're focused on your breath, you are in the NOW moment, the only moment that you can have any actual affect on your life.
Living in the moment - also called 'mindfulness' - is a simply a state of active, open, intentional attention on the present. When you become mindful, you realize that you are not your thoughts; you can become an observer of your thoughts from moment to moment without judging them. Learn to be with your thoughts as they are, neither grasping at them nor pushing them away. They just are.
Now that you've found your balance, find a sense of gratitude for how safe you are right now, in this moment. Surrender to the fact that you don't know what to do and hand everything over to the Divine Universe who always knows what to do. Say out loud: "Even though I don't know what to do, I call upon the light of the Universe to find the solution on my behalf, for the highest good of all!" Once you've handed over the responsibility, move on to something else and eventually notice how everything falls into place.
In the wise words of Matt Kahn: 'Clarity is not about gaining a clearer understanding. It is the willingness to live without a need for understanding by surrendering yourself to the fate of your highest possibility. From this space, you may come to realize that clarity is what sees, not the way something is seen.'
The Bliss of Surrender
‘Surrender’ to some means to lose power but to others it is a truly powerful, blissful state. I don’t know about you but, given the choice, I’d rather experience it as the latter.
Many people associate the word ‘surrender’ to waving the white flag – to give up – to lose the battle.
The dictionary gives the word 3 meanings:
1. to agree to stop fighting, hiding, resisting, etc., because you know that you will not win or succeed
2. to give the control or use of (something) to someone else
3. to allow something (such as a habit or desire) to influence or control you
Consider a different perspective on those 3 meanings -
1. ‘to agree to stop fighting, hiding or resisting’ - isn’t that exactly what you’re doing – resisting something? You’ve been fighting something that you no longer need to fight. Yes, there was a reason you once needed to respond the way you did, but that time has passed, it no longer serves its purpose and now fighting is no longer in your highest good.
2. ‘to give control to someone/thing else’ – surrendering certainly can feel like giving away your power, however, what if the thing you were giving your power away to was ‘your highest good’ or your Spirit?
3. ‘to allow something to influence you’ – maybe this ‘something’ IS your higher self, and now you’ve decided to give it what it’s been asking you for. Maybe surrendering means to follow the desire for, or to reclaim peace and happiness.
So how can you merge Bliss with Surrender? Read on, I’ll show you in 6 easy steps...
1. Be open to possibility
To be able to merge the two, the above 3 perspectives need to resonate with you. Even if you can’t see HOW it can be done, just hold it as a possibility.
2. Be willing to shift
Are you ready for a shift, do you feel it’s time? Are you ready to move out of the darkness and into the light?
3. Get grounded
You’re not ready until you’re grounded. Think of a tree – in a wind storm – if the tree isn’t deeply rooted (grounded) the wind could easily force it lose its hold and fall over. Not good. Now - think of a large oak tree with its many roots that go deep into the earth and spread out in all directions. The wind can blow – as strong as it likes – and you’ll still be standing. You need to be an oak tree.
Only when you can trust that the shift will move you into a better space, will you allow that shift to happen, and not before.
Take a deep breath, then DECIDE to give up the fight. Don’t look back into the darkness – move forward into the light – and just keep going. Raise and open your arms, hands to the sky, to embrace the shift. Relax your stomach muscles, take a deep breath and receive the support of your higher self – your Spirit. Sense it pouring into your crown chakra at the top of your head. Let it fill you. Place your hands on your heart and receive into it the gift of love from your Spirit, feel it pouring into your heart. Then wrap your arms around yourself, one arm over your shoulder, allowing Spirit to love and support you. Feel Spirit rocking you gently.
6. Feel the bliss
Give it a little time and you’ll start to perceive the bliss. When the situation no longer feels like it controls you; when the buttons that once got pushed seem deactivated; when you feel like you’ve taken back your power – that’s when you know you’ve achieved blissful surrender.
Is There Life After Death?The recent ICE STORM here in Ontario (Canada) is a reminder to us all of a cycle that affects every living thing. With the 'end of life' to many trees that were thriving just the day before, sometimes a life-cycle is shorter than planned. Sad as it was to see such devastation, it follows a natural law ... the LIFE-DEATH-REBIRTH cycle.
The NEW WORLD we are now living in requires us to respond in ways that can be very different to how we have responded in the past. We have an opportunity to become spiritually mature - to reach deep inside and find a strength, a power that we have not accessed fully. You'll know when you've accessed it as it feels good, it feels right - unfamiliar perhaps - but rewarding.
With the recent planetary shifts and alignments that many of us have been sensing we've likely all been experiencing events that have 'rocked the boat' - but instead of it sending us into a tailspin, if we've dared to step beyond our comfort zone and reach deep inside, we've found that not only have we fared the storm more easily than we expected to, but we've been catapulted into a new, healthier space.
We are all capable of this. Our spirit soars when we grow in this way. When we are in harmony with our spirit, we are at peace with ourselves and the world. We become FREE from old fears and restraints. We experience a rebirth and all that comes along with this territory.
When this happens, it gives us reason to pause - to celebrate.
Be proud of your achievement and wish yourself a Happy reBirthday!